The compensation often comes in the form of money or drugs but may also include gifts or even necessities, such as shelter. Your loved one could use sexual activity to seek pleasure, to avoid unpleasant feelings, or to respond to outside stressors, such as work difficulties or interpersonal problems. Partners need treatment for trauma and therapeutic support from providers educated in the dynamics of abusive relationships, not more abuse from professionals we are trusting to help us. Katehakis has the courage to respond. I truly wanted to hear from the experts gathered there what the pluses and minuses of such disclosure might be. However, my husband received no such information regarding my trauma. Their goal in interacting with people is to obtain sexual pleasure.
Does My Partner Have An Addiction?
When you praise Carnes and pander to the Old Guard, it hurts us. Leave this field blank. Counseling offers more than a safe environment to process your feelings. I truly wanted to hear from the experts gathered there what the pluses and minuses of such disclosure might be. They have enough crap to deal with. This type of betrayal trauma shatters the internal world of the spouse of an addict. You may feel all alone, but I am here to show you that you are not.
For Spouses/Partners - Debra Kaplan, Psychotherapist
I often visit the psychology today website and came across your response to an article by Dr. This article from a woman who introduces Patrick Carnes at a convention with cloyingly, adolescent admiration and finishes by reading a letter from one of her clients. Minwalla Submitted by Anonymous on November 6, - pm. The current MO keeps the partner in the dark for months while the abuser--and let's be clear this is ABUSE--makes his lists and processes with his therapist, who profits enormously by this method. Partners need to face their own experience and find resolution in the trauma.
Most likely, he leaves her broken and barely functioning as she cares for the children while he attends his endless schedule of step meetings and dates with his therapist, who loves him and sees his vast potential as a human being. I was asked to write a letter about how his addiction affected me which I did and it was a very difficult and painful thing to do. How when his partner speaks up to the addict or the therapist , she is dismissed or is accused of interfering with the addict's treatment and trying to sabotage it. Have you recently discovered a secret life in which your partner or spouse engages that violates your relationship agreement? Her ability to function with employment, household duties, and parenting is disrupted. You need to stick with coddling the "addicts" Alex.
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